I’m often amazed at how people who say they are very pro-family and supportive of their family members actually don’t treat them very well.
Sometimes I’m watching a movie or TV show, and the mother says something to the son or daughter, and my response is, “What mother would ever say that to their child?” And then I pause for a moment and realize I have in fact heard that in life, not on a screen.
Why do people think they are encouraging their children when they are constantly criticizing them? I don’t think my mother had a good example of parenting, from what I’ve heard about my grandparents, yet she never did anything but encourage me, without indulging in passive aggressive behavior. (I learned how to use passive aggression—if that’s the term?—from the nuns.)
I never had children so I’m not really an expert on this. But I have observed enough of this type of behavior to see how harmful it is. If only those trapped in that pattern of behavior could realize it. Sometimes you get those epiphanies on TV and in movies where the parent realize their error. It would be nice to see that happen more often on this side of the screen, or better yet, not start happening at all.
MUSOFYR 
Someone once said that if they could change the way they raised their kids they would have let them make more mistakes and get into more trouble. I can be a bit overprotective at times but more often I’m the fun Tio that encourages them to scrape their knees. I’m also usually the one that tells them to dive into the water or face their fears. I was a good kid and my parents didn’t put any strict boundaries on me.
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